I ran into a friend last night who just put his mom in an assisted living facility.  She has Alzheimer's, and neither he or his brother felt it would be safe for her to move in with them.    She's angry at her children and he feels terribly guilty.  I let him know that hundreds of thousands of loving children have to make this difficult decision every week.  I told him two people he knew who had just gone through it; he had no idea they were suffering like he was.  Three learnings from this:  1) you're not alone; 2) you are still a good son/daughter; and 3) it may make it easier if you share your experiences with each other on our site.